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Sorry, cannot remember if I submitted to you or not lol. /:

You didn’t submit this to me. At least I don’t remember it. But I’m a little.. Very irritated at your little shot at non-virgins. I’m not a virgin and I have a shit ton of self-respect and patience. So that’s just really fucked up. No judgement, I was there before. I’m still there, somewhat. I don’t sleep with anyone I’m not in love with. But alas, I’ve been in love, and I’ve been in someones bed the next morning. And that says absolutely nothing about my self-respect or patience. I was ready, so I did.
But I get what you’re trying to say. This guy should have read your profile. He should have already known the answer (if that’s in your profile.) But you phrased it as he should have read your questions. And let’s be honest.. 99% of people, myself included, don’t read through your questions.. Unless you have an enemy percentage of over 80. Then I read all up in your answered questions because I’m absolutely dumbfounded. But as a regular person, I don’t read everyone’s questions before I message them.. That’s a whole lot of wasted time I just don’t have.
Was his introduction question a little weird? Yes. He could have asked the same question in a more.. “getting to know you” manner.. But he didn’t. He asked you that. And he got the point across. And it doesn’t really matter how he asked it because based on your answer, you wouldn’t have been interested even if he had asked it in a more eloquent manner. He could have easily typed up “Hey, I was just wondering if you’d ever been in a FWB type relationship before. I find you interesting and that’s kind of what I’m looking for at the moment. So I was wondering if that was something you’d possibly be interested in.” But he didn’t. And he’s a jackass for that because well, he just sucks. He should have read your profile, and theoretically, he should have known his inquiry wouldn’t go over well.
He didn’t really have to ask you if you’re a virgin, but he did. Maybe he was curious? Maybe he read it? Maybe he came to the conclusion after you answered the way you did?.. Either way, it wasn’t really appropriate of you to shame all non-virgins by saying what you said.
I also believe it’s worth the wait. I wait until I’m in love. You’re waiting for.. whatever it is you’re waiting for. Some people wait until they’re sure they like the person. Some people don’t wait at all. And all of that is fine. None of those people are void of self-respect or any amount of patience because they made the decision that they made. They’re void of self-respect or patience based on so much more. And really, it isn’t for you to judge. 
I love all of my followers and I love all of you for submitting.. But when you start saying things that are considered slut-shaming, I’m going to get pissed off. You’re completely entitled to feel how you feel. If you’re not interested,  by all means, please don’t be interested. If you’re not ready for sex, don’t have sex. But don’t shame me or imply that I lack self-respect and patience, just because I am ready and I do have sex. You have absolutely no idea the amount of self-respect and patience I possess. I get told on a daily basis that I have the patience of a saint. And I do. But not when I feel attacked for a decision that I made concerning my own body.
I’m not trying to attack you in any way, so please don’t take it like that.. But the guy was wrong for not reading your profile and knowing that this wouldn’t go over well.. And you’re wrong for implying that people who have sex are bad or wrong in some way based on the fact that you’re waiting and they didn’t. Keep waiting. Wait until you’re married. Wait until you’re 40. Wait until you’re 100% sure, without a shadow of a doubt, that he’s the one. Wait until you’re having an amazing time with some guy and you throw all of your inhibitions out the window. Wait until you fucking feel a million and ten percent ready. Wait for whatever you want. But don’t shame me because I waited for a different landmark.

Sorry, cannot remember if I submitted to you or not lol. /:

You didn’t submit this to me. At least I don’t remember it. But I’m a little.. Very irritated at your little shot at non-virgins. I’m not a virgin and I have a shit ton of self-respect and patience. So that’s just really fucked up. No judgement, I was there before. I’m still there, somewhat. I don’t sleep with anyone I’m not in love with. But alas, I’ve been in love, and I’ve been in someones bed the next morning. And that says absolutely nothing about my self-respect or patience. I was ready, so I did.

But I get what you’re trying to say. This guy should have read your profile. He should have already known the answer (if that’s in your profile.) But you phrased it as he should have read your questions. And let’s be honest.. 99% of people, myself included, don’t read through your questions.. Unless you have an enemy percentage of over 80. Then I read all up in your answered questions because I’m absolutely dumbfounded. But as a regular person, I don’t read everyone’s questions before I message them.. That’s a whole lot of wasted time I just don’t have.

Was his introduction question a little weird? Yes. He could have asked the same question in a more.. “getting to know you” manner.. But he didn’t. He asked you that. And he got the point across. And it doesn’t really matter how he asked it because based on your answer, you wouldn’t have been interested even if he had asked it in a more eloquent manner. He could have easily typed up “Hey, I was just wondering if you’d ever been in a FWB type relationship before. I find you interesting and that’s kind of what I’m looking for at the moment. So I was wondering if that was something you’d possibly be interested in.” But he didn’t. And he’s a jackass for that because well, he just sucks. He should have read your profile, and theoretically, he should have known his inquiry wouldn’t go over well.

He didn’t really have to ask you if you’re a virgin, but he did. Maybe he was curious? Maybe he read it? Maybe he came to the conclusion after you answered the way you did?.. Either way, it wasn’t really appropriate of you to shame all non-virgins by saying what you said.

I also believe it’s worth the wait. I wait until I’m in love. You’re waiting for.. whatever it is you’re waiting for. Some people wait until they’re sure they like the person. Some people don’t wait at all. And all of that is fine. None of those people are void of self-respect or any amount of patience because they made the decision that they made. They’re void of self-respect or patience based on so much more. And really, it isn’t for you to judge. 

I love all of my followers and I love all of you for submitting.. But when you start saying things that are considered slut-shaming, I’m going to get pissed off. You’re completely entitled to feel how you feel. If you’re not interested,  by all means, please don’t be interested. If you’re not ready for sex, don’t have sex. But don’t shame me or imply that I lack self-respect and patience, just because I am ready and I do have sex. You have absolutely no idea the amount of self-respect and patience I possess. I get told on a daily basis that I have the patience of a saint. And I do. But not when I feel attacked for a decision that I made concerning my own body.

I’m not trying to attack you in any way, so please don’t take it like that.. But the guy was wrong for not reading your profile and knowing that this wouldn’t go over well.. And you’re wrong for implying that people who have sex are bad or wrong in some way based on the fact that you’re waiting and they didn’t. Keep waiting. Wait until you’re married. Wait until you’re 40. Wait until you’re 100% sure, without a shadow of a doubt, that he’s the one. Wait until you’re having an amazing time with some guy and you throw all of your inhibitions out the window. Wait until you fucking feel a million and ten percent ready. Wait for whatever you want. But don’t shame me because I waited for a different landmark.

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    I think the heavens opened and a chorus of angels flew down and gave a standing ovation for the anti-slut-shaming...
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  11. the-makeout-whisperer said: She submitted this to another blog I follow, and got the same response. Maybe she was hoping for more sympathy here? Glad you took down the slut-shaming, too.
  12. madmarchioness reblogged this from wtfokcreepy and added:
    I was gonna comment on the slut-shaming when I saw the image, but you took the words right out of my mouth.
  13. kay-the-strange said: TBH I thought the guy submitted this because her response was so awful. I mean really?
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