OkCupid, That's Creepy As Fuck.

 

bundlesofquestions asked
I was offered to be a moderator on OK Cupid and was trying to decide between doing so or not. Thanks for solidifying my decision to never do that, I wouldn't be able to handle the mind boggling stupidity on the site

Hahahahaha. I loved being a moderator. I miss it. It gave me something to do when I was bored. But I totally get it. And actually, most of the stuff put up for review is like… “I’m reporting you for putting up pictures of your dog” which is in the terms if service to be deleted, but still. Not nearly as entertaining. Or else people just think you’re ugly. Literally, I’ve had to vote on reported profiles and photos that actually list “they’re ugly” as the reason for reporting them. Just stupid.

poppunkvampire:

well I found my high school rapist on okcupid
which allows me to out this fucker
this man is named Ian Dickinson. he lives in Vancouver WA and he is 24 years old. when I was 16 and he was 19, he and an accomplice (who I will not out for personal reasons) assaulted me in his bed while I cried and begged them to stop. when I told him afterwards that what he had done wasn’t ok, he told me I shouldn’t have worn the skirt I had on and I deserved it, and then he laughed. we were both sober.
he’s studying Engineering at Clark Community College in Vancouver. stay away from him.

Stay safe, ladies!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

poppunkvampire:

well I found my high school rapist on okcupid

which allows me to out this fucker

this man is named Ian Dickinson. he lives in Vancouver WA and he is 24 years old. when I was 16 and he was 19, he and an accomplice (who I will not out for personal reasons) assaulted me in his bed while I cried and begged them to stop. when I told him afterwards that what he had done wasn’t ok, he told me I shouldn’t have worn the skirt I had on and I deserved it, and then he laughed. we were both sober.

he’s studying Engineering at Clark Community College in Vancouver. stay away from him.

Stay safe, ladies!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Submission:

I wish I had taken a screenshot of this, but I didn’t. Today, a guy messages me on OKC, after we have visited each other’s profile a couple of times, and says, ‘I can’t seem to pick anyone here, not even you. Sry.’ I just responded with ‘Like I care. You were kinda cute but your message negates that. Thanks, asshole.’ Really, why visit someone’s profile a few times and then say something rude? The amount of assholes I have encountered there is putting me off online dating and ready to punch everyone. 

My Answer:

Because some people are fun-sucking assholes and if they’re not having a good time, why should you? They can’t find a date, so they feel the need to tell you why you aren’t worthy. So, they hope that by saying something rude, they’ll knock you down a peg and have you feeling as shitty as they do. In theory. Of course, you don’t. Because you’re a normal person who doesn’t give a fuck why you aren’t good enough for some douchebag stranger. Who, by sending that message, proved exactly why it is them who isn’t worthy of you, darling.

If you view my profile multiple times and don’t message me, I’ve already written you off as “not an option” I’m not shy, if I’m interested, I’ll message you. I’ll find something to say. I’ll tell you that your shoes match your shirt in your third picture and it reminded me of the time I showed up at work with socks that were the complete opposite color of my accessories and it almost got me sent home (ahh, retail.). So, if you’ve viewed my profile more than once, and I’ve viewed yours as well, knock it the fuck off, message me or go away. I don’t have time for people who want to sit around on dating sites and wait for people to message them.

90% of the time, the people who message me aren’t people I’m attracted to, or who are even realistically worth my time (ie, they’re assholes, looking for sex, literally crazy, or all of the above.) I’ve had to send the first message to basically all but one of the guys I’ve met. Stop pussyfooting around and message people! What’s gonna happen if they aren’t interested? They don’t respond? OH, THE AGONY. Christ, it’s not like they’re gonna track you down and show up at your house with all of your friends, family, and neighbors just to publicly reject you because you messaged them. Most people aren’t horrible to you unless you in some way deserve it. If you’re a bigoted creep, yes, I’m going to attack you for messaging me. If you’re treating me like a booty call, yes, I’m going to attack you for messaging me. If you attack me, or someone I know, or anyone else for that matter, in your message or on your profile, yes, I’m going to attack you for messaging me.. But if you’re a normal fucking person who is messaging me genuinely to see if we have anything in common or if there’s mutual interest, NO, I’m not going to attack you! I’ll probably just thank you for messaging me or leave you alone entirely. 

Sorry, I got off topic. This guys a dumbass and he probably was slightly interested but couldn’t hold his shit together long enough to come up with something worth-while to say to you and got upset that you didn’t say anything either. Therefore, deciding that you aren’t worth his time, and making you worthy of a rude message. Don’t sweat it, hun. He’s a loon.

Could someone please explain the joke, because I don’t get it?
Thanks for the submission.. Okay, I read it 4 times trying to understand and all I’m coming up with is that he’s talking about a dog. A lot of dogs, mine included, run/yip/bark/whimper/twitch in their sleep when they’re dreaming about whatever. Being chased, burying a bone? I don’t know, I’m not a dog. So finally, after reading it for the 4th time I almost think I might know? He’s talking about a dog who was dreaming about being chased by another dog for the past three nights and was “running” in her sleep, therefore, she’s still tired?
I don’t know. If it’s not that then I have no idea.
Either way, it’s a stupid, not even funny joke and a bad message in general. I mean if it takes deductive reasoning and extra back-story on someone elses part to make a joke make sense, then it just isn’t a good joke.
Can anyone further explain this “joke”.. Especially if I’m totally wrong?

Could someone please explain the joke, because I don’t get it?

Thanks for the submission.. Okay, I read it 4 times trying to understand and all I’m coming up with is that he’s talking about a dog. A lot of dogs, mine included, run/yip/bark/whimper/twitch in their sleep when they’re dreaming about whatever. Being chased, burying a bone? I don’t know, I’m not a dog. So finally, after reading it for the 4th time I almost think I might know? He’s talking about a dog who was dreaming about being chased by another dog for the past three nights and was “running” in her sleep, therefore, she’s still tired?

I don’t know. If it’s not that then I have no idea.

Either way, it’s a stupid, not even funny joke and a bad message in general. I mean if it takes deductive reasoning and extra back-story on someone elses part to make a joke make sense, then it just isn’t a good joke.

Can anyone further explain this “joke”.. Especially if I’m totally wrong?

tattooedteacupsofcuriouserlands asked
I have been following your blog for a while and I would have to say that you are without a doubt the most freakin beautiful and intelligent person that I have ever had the pleasure of following. And I mean beautiful as in your mind, soul, intelligence, etc. You are so freakin awesome and you have made my day :)

Hi, I love you. This message made me smile. A+. You da fuckin best. 

He’s super sincere, you guys.. 
I was wondering why he had no picture when he messaged me.. I didn’t bother to look at his profile because I saw no point.. Well, I did today before posting this to see if there was anything worth adding. 
I figured out why he still has no profile picture up! HE’S MARRIED.
Messaging girls 20 years younger than him.
Who’s profiles literally say “I’m not interested in anyone more than ten years older than me. Sorry. Also, married men, please don’t waste your time. I’m not here for that.”
But whatever. Who cares? He’s SPECIAL. He’s only 43 you guys! AND HE’S SINCERE. Surely I could make an exception to my rule.
No.
No, I cannot.

He’s super sincere, you guys.. 

I was wondering why he had no picture when he messaged me.. I didn’t bother to look at his profile because I saw no point.. Well, I did today before posting this to see if there was anything worth adding. 

I figured out why he still has no profile picture up! HE’S MARRIED.

Messaging girls 20 years younger than him.

Who’s profiles literally say “I’m not interested in anyone more than ten years older than me. Sorry. Also, married men, please don’t waste your time. I’m not here for that.”

But whatever. Who cares? He’s SPECIAL. He’s only 43 you guys! AND HE’S SINCERE. Surely I could make an exception to my rule.

No.

No, I cannot.

Just because a woman does not want to sleep with you, does not mean she is a lesbian.

Lesbian is not an insult.

Using it as an insult makes you an asshole.

Feminism does not mean that you hate men.

Also, that was an assumption on your part because my profile says nothing about feminism.

However, you are a cunt-nugget and I will make sure you never get to spread your “liquid gold”.

I’m not kidding. His profile actually says “My seed is liquid gold.”

Ladies, for your sanity, please don’t become involved with this piece of shit. And for fuck’s sake, please don’t sleep with him. Ever. Also, tell him he’s a cunt, because.. Well, he is a cunt.

Ladies and gentleman: Today’s asshole of the day is:

Dan!

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hderyckw asked
Hi there. :) Just wanted to say I signed up for Tumblr as a direct result of my repeat visits to your blog. Reading the shit that you and your followers post makes me feel like I owe you and the rest of the women on OkCupid an apology on behalf of mankind. I know I'm not the first person to say that to you, but it doesn't make it any less true. I can't fathom what it must be like to be a girl on that fuckin' site. Good luck and stay strong, ma'am. Cheers from another fan. :)

You did nothing wrong, so you don’t owe anyone an apology for men creepy boy-like weirdos. They owe the world an apology for themselves. But you existing and not being one (thus far that I’ve noticed) is apology enough. Actually apologizing doesn’t do much besides make people question your sincerity. So it’s best to just let them learn themselves that they’re not ALL lunatics. :]

visenyasbraids asked
All these anons who come crying to you about being alone (because they're irredeemable shitbags irl most likely) scare me now in light of Elliot Rodger. I feel like every one of them who goes on about being such a nice guy and about how women are dumb cunts could potentially snap. Anyways, you're way nicer to them than I'd be so kudos to you sis.

I can’t believe I just saw this message.

Thanks lovie, you’re a doll. And I agree, it’s terrifying how many people think it’s perfectly acceptable to flip their shit over someone they don’t even know not being interested. You don’t even know them, they shouldn’t have that much power over your view of yourself!

scon89 asked
I was hoping for your thoughts on messaging a girl a third time if she didn't respond to the first or second. I don't generally follow the practice of multiple messaging if no response, but there is a girl whose profile and match questions really stood out for me. I sent a second message, about a week after the first, got her to look at my profile again, and still no response. Any thoughts on that or anyway to get a third look without messaging? Thanks in advance for any help!

If she’s never responded to any of your messages I’d say no. Leave her alone, she’s obviously not interested. If she was she would have messaged back, and if she comes around or whatever, she needs to do so on her own terms. 

You can go rate her profile highly if you want to and play it off as a “oh you showed up in quickmatch” if she gets weirded out and says something.. But that’s still a bit weird and I’m going to advise you not to lie to ladies you’re interested in.. Or anyone in general in hopes of knowing them.

Honestly, you need to just let it go unless you wish to come off as overly persistent (ie. obsessive) and creepy. Maybe she’ll look back into old messages or happen upon your profile on accident some time and end up talking to you. Things happen. But don’t try to make them happen by multiple messaging a girl who hasn’t once responded to you. She’s not interested. It may just be for right now. She may have shit going on. She may never be interested.. But you don’t know her, therefore it isn’t your business her reasoning. It’s hers. If she messages you or takes a look at your profile later, then feel free to look at her profile as well or message her back. If she doesn’t: It’s best to leave her be.

cl0ckwatching asked
Hi!! I'd really like to submit a revolting Tinder message I got once (I know it's not OKCupid, but it's truly ridiculous) but I'm not sure how? I tried finding your submissions page, but I got a "page unavailable" thing.

Sorry! SOOOO SOOO SORRY GUYS. I had turned off submissions because some douche-nozzle had been harassing me anonymously so I turned off submissions and anonymous messages and completely forgot. Submissions will be back up in like two seconds!