Hahahahaha. I loved being a moderator. I miss it. It gave me something to do when I was bored. But I totally get it. And actually, most of the stuff put up for review is like… “I’m reporting you for putting up pictures of your dog” which is in the terms if service to be deleted, but still. Not nearly as entertaining. Or else people just think you’re ugly. Literally, I’ve had to vote on reported profiles and photos that actually list “they’re ugly” as the reason for reporting them. Just stupid.
I wish I had taken a screenshot of this, but I didn’t. Today, a guy messages me on OKC, after we have visited each other’s profile a couple of times, and says, ‘I can’t seem to pick anyone here, not even you. Sry.’ I just responded with ‘Like I care. You were kinda cute but your message negates that. Thanks, asshole.’ Really, why visit someone’s profile a few times and then say something rude? The amount of assholes I have encountered there is putting me off online dating and ready to punch everyone.
Because some people are fun-sucking assholes and if they’re not having a good time, why should you? They can’t find a date, so they feel the need to tell you why you aren’t worthy. So, they hope that by saying something rude, they’ll knock you down a peg and have you feeling as shitty as they do. In theory. Of course, you don’t. Because you’re a normal person who doesn’t give a fuck why you aren’t good enough for some douchebag stranger. Who, by sending that message, proved exactly why it is them who isn’t worthy of you, darling.
If you view my profile multiple times and don’t message me, I’ve already written you off as “not an option” I’m not shy, if I’m interested, I’ll message you. I’ll find something to say. I’ll tell you that your shoes match your shirt in your third picture and it reminded me of the time I showed up at work with socks that were the complete opposite color of my accessories and it almost got me sent home (ahh, retail.). So, if you’ve viewed my profile more than once, and I’ve viewed yours as well, knock it the fuck off, message me or go away. I don’t have time for people who want to sit around on dating sites and wait for people to message them.
90% of the time, the people who message me aren’t people I’m attracted to, or who are even realistically worth my time (ie, they’re assholes, looking for sex, literally crazy, or all of the above.) I’ve had to send the first message to basically all but one of the guys I’ve met. Stop pussyfooting around and message people! What’s gonna happen if they aren’t interested? They don’t respond? OH, THE AGONY. Christ, it’s not like they’re gonna track you down and show up at your house with all of your friends, family, and neighbors just to publicly reject you because you messaged them. Most people aren’t horrible to you unless you in some way deserve it. If you’re a bigoted creep, yes, I’m going to attack you for messaging me. If you’re treating me like a booty call, yes, I’m going to attack you for messaging me. If you attack me, or someone I know, or anyone else for that matter, in your message or on your profile, yes, I’m going to attack you for messaging me.. But if you’re a normal fucking person who is messaging me genuinely to see if we have anything in common or if there’s mutual interest, NO, I’m not going to attack you! I’ll probably just thank you for messaging me or leave you alone entirely.
Sorry, I got off topic. This guys a dumbass and he probably was slightly interested but couldn’t hold his shit together long enough to come up with something worth-while to say to you and got upset that you didn’t say anything either. Therefore, deciding that you aren’t worth his time, and making you worthy of a rude message. Don’t sweat it, hun. He’s a loon.
Hi, I love you. This message made me smile. A+. You da fuckin best.
You did nothing wrong, so you don’t owe anyone an apology for
men creepy boy-like weirdos. They owe the world an apology for themselves. But you existing and not being one (thus far that I’ve noticed) is apology enough. Actually apologizing doesn’t do much besides make people question your sincerity. So it’s best to just let them learn themselves that they’re not ALL lunatics. :]
I can’t believe I just saw this message.
Thanks lovie, you’re a doll. And I agree, it’s terrifying how many people think it’s perfectly acceptable to flip their shit over someone they don’t even know not being interested. You don’t even know them, they shouldn’t have that much power over your view of yourself!
If she’s never responded to any of your messages I’d say no. Leave her alone, she’s obviously not interested. If she was she would have messaged back, and if she comes around or whatever, she needs to do so on her own terms.
You can go rate her profile highly if you want to and play it off as a “oh you showed up in quickmatch” if she gets weirded out and says something.. But that’s still a bit weird and I’m going to advise you not to lie to ladies you’re interested in.. Or anyone in general in hopes of knowing them.
Honestly, you need to just let it go unless you wish to come off as overly persistent (ie. obsessive) and creepy. Maybe she’ll look back into old messages or happen upon your profile on accident some time and end up talking to you. Things happen. But don’t try to make them happen by multiple messaging a girl who hasn’t once responded to you. She’s not interested. It may just be for right now. She may have shit going on. She may never be interested.. But you don’t know her, therefore it isn’t your business her reasoning. It’s hers. If she messages you or takes a look at your profile later, then feel free to look at her profile as well or message her back. If she doesn’t: It’s best to leave her be.
Sorry! SOOOO SOOO SORRY GUYS. I had turned off submissions because some douche-nozzle had been harassing me anonymously so I turned off submissions and anonymous messages and completely forgot. Submissions will be back up in like two seconds!